Hi Everyone, 

I'm sad to find you all here and also relieved. My husband for years claimed he had ADHD but unfortunately I was not educated on the symptoms and assumed that he did not. I've read everyone's posts and it's like reading your life through the lens of so many other people. We only verified this diagnosis when my son was recently diagnosed with AdHD (inattentive) this past 2 months in middle school and now that we know what he has then it validates my husband's diagnosis... reading about adult adhd checks off everything we've encountered in 14 Year of marriage.

I plan on doing a lengthier posts as at the moment like all of your I'm juggling multiple roles but wanted to post this here. I'm somewhat in and out of crisis mode and I work a full time job (fortunately from.home) as a BI manager, full time in school, managing my kids very busy schedule (top.private schools, pre professional ballet, swimming, mandarin on weekend you name it were in it) and tutoring them after school, cooking and cleaning.. the list goes on... anyhow I'm finding there are not that many resources for adults with adhd unless it's private practice. Fortunately for my son I found him a great program at ucsf that were on the waiting list for (6for resources for adults. I found a few that are pricey... 3-4k diagnosis and $400 per appt that look extremely promising but wanted to see how you guys go about finding resources. I'm willing to telehealth and we have blue cross blue shield and was hoping to find an insurance option that doesn't just prescribe meds. My husband self diagnosed and got Adderall from his doctor 2 years ago and it was a nightmare in our house and I only found out he was taking it after I went through his things because he was more erratic than before. He stopped his meds and he is high performing at work as an entrepreneur but its all the other stuff that I deal with in regards to emotional availability and being present etc. Fortunately I am type A and patient and really have a desire to make this work. I love him, we have a lot in common in all the best ways but it's a Rollercoaster at times. It only comes up maybe every 5/6 months because of my.professional background in process improvement and automation (technical minded) I've created a scaffold around our situation where it limits the possibility of a flare up but they do happen once or twice a year. When it does it's bad... it last for 2 to 3 weeks and the tension is visceral.. guess my post is much lengthier than I originally intended.. but yeah I'm just worried about finding him.the right help because honestly I don't even know how someone with adhd can get help because I'm finding a hard time just getting him help. I've even considered changing careers and figuring this out since my son will have to deal.with this his entire life. Anyhow sorry for the lengthy post but really just trying to find out what you guys have tried, I'm planning on signing up for the couples seminar here in January and seeing if anyone here has done that.. what have you guys done and how did you find these resources private practice or insurance. months out with Dr. Sanford Newmark) but I'm looking for resources for adults. I found a few that are pricey... 3-4k diagnosis and $400 per appt that look extremely promising but wanted to see how you guys go about finding resources. I'm willing to telehealth and we have blue cross blue shield and was hoping to find an insurance option that doesn't just prescribe meds. My husband self diagnosed and got Adderall from his doctor 2 years ago and it was a nightmare in our house and I only found out he was taking it after I went through his things because he was more erratic than before. He stopped his meds and he is high performing at work as an entrepreneur but its all the other stuff that I deal with in regards to emotional availability and being present etc. Fortunately I am type A and patient and really have a desire to make this work. I love him, we have a lot in common in all the best ways but it's a Rollercoaster at times. It only comes up maybe every 5/6 months because of my.professional background in process improvement and automation (technical minded) I've created a scaffold around our situation where it limits the possibility of a flare up but they do happen once or twice a year. When it does it's bad... it last for 2 to 3 weeks and the tension is visceral.. guess my post is much lengthier than I originally intended.. but yeah I'm just worried about finding him.the right help because honestly I don't even know how someone with adhd can get help because I'm finding a hard time just getting him help. I've even considered changing careers and figuring this out since my son will have to deal.with this his entire life. Anyhow sorry for the lengthy post but really just trying to find out what you guys have tried, I'm planning on signing up for the couples seminar here in January and seeing if anyone here has done that.. what have you guys done and how did you find these resources private practice or insurance.