I was curious, for those of you who have significant others that are taking medication, is that a double edged sword? The only time I have ever known my SO without meds was during pregnancy. I gotta tell you, that was the best times between us, but hard on her for work. It was hard for her to concentrate. However, she was happy, fun, and easygoing. Then, after she was done breastfeeding, she started again with the meds. At first it was just on days when there was a big project, and now its every day. Now she seems like she is emotionless. Constantly working. This is great for us financially, but its become a dull, loveless relationship.
I guess my question to you all is this: Has this been your experience? As you might imagine, this is a touchy subject. One where she gets very defensive.
Meds and emotional effects
Submitted by ADHDMomof2 on
I think it depends on the medication and the person taking it as we are all biochemically a bit different. Strattera made me feel flat and sucked the joy out of life and my son says the same about higher doses of Focalin. Has she always taken the same medication? Maybe she just needs to change the medication. I teach, and have seen very different reactions to the same meds by different people. I would be quite surprised if they ALL made her feel that way.
Just a thought :).
Things that make me feel sunnier:
She might be afraid you are suggesting she be without medication. I would react to that if my husband said that. It's hard not to feel right, but think about this: for her to give up happiness for functionality, she must really be suffering. Also, she must be afraid. Trust me, motherhood doesn't decrease her need for optimal executive functioning, and it's likely made the need for medication more apparent.
Good luck!
The problem....
Submitted by c ur self on
The problem isn't ADHD or Meds...it's the Good ole American Way!
Her energies and zest for life can only go so far...If she gets up in the morning concerned about Jobs, Projects, Bills etc....Things that have nothing to do with Husband, Children and Y'all's home....Something is going to suffer! Add ADHD on top of that to the point medication is needed to survive the day then it's much harder on her than you...
I'm in no wise blaming you for her lifestyle...It's the same with my wife, she could quit, and we could easily survive on her and my retirements, but, she's lived this American Dream since she came out of College, and thinks it's the right thing....Or at least isn't willing to discuss an alternative....
Some times the American Dream isn't so sweet, when we start dealing w/the loneliness, and emptiness it can bring into a marriage....
Just Love her Gatorman...Your commitment and Love is the gift she needs...