There's an incredible video on YouTube entitled: How Wolves Changed Rivers that tells the story of what happened when they reintroduced wolves back into Yellowstone National Park. The net effect was something called a Trophic Cascade which is a miraculous phenomenon that takes place in a closed environment, when a small change ( in the big picture ) has an amazing impact on the entire ecosystem. I hope you can take a minute and watch this short video.
In my mind, this is how GOD works. You couldn't ask for a more profound example.
It only took me a minute to realize how much this exemplifies my own personal belief system which I won't assume is shared by everyone else.
My thoughts and personal beliefs in relation to my relationship with my SO and this video goes something like this:
Everytime my SO asks me to take out the garbage.... and I get up immediately from whatever I'm doing and gladly do as she asks, the positive compound effect is like a Trophic Cascade.
From one small, seemingly insignificant action, the net effect on her translates to the entire household, and the harmony created within is ten fold from this one action in our little closed environment.
Why? Because this is how GOD works. The same as introducing the wolves back into Yellowstone.
This is just a part of my personal belief system that I believe is true. Thought I'd share.
J
It's working
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So I get a call from my SO this morning from work ( I'm off today ) to tell me she's sorry that she gets irritated with me sometimes. She also admitted that she forgets to take her meds sometimes and gets cranky and last night was one of those times.
Her son and daughter in law were over with their new twins, and in a moment that I can hardly remember, she got short with me over something I can barely remember. I don't always hear things because I'm moderately hearing impaired and hearing aids aren't perfect, especially when everyone is talking, two babies are fussing and the TV is on at the same time.
Anyway, she always gets really stressed when anyone comes over even though, the house is always immaculate and company ready at all times.
Her biggest issue is the kitchen. That's HER sanctuary and domain and she gets really uptight when anyone is in there including me. So much so, I really can't use it to cook anything.
I've even tried to surprise her by having dinner ready when she comes home, and meticulously, make sure everything is back where I found it and painstakingly checking for crumbs or any signs of food particles, and remove them from the counters and floor.
To the point,...when she comes home, the reaction you might expect when you've cooked a nice meal for them and cleaned up everything without a trace ....stresses her out so much she cannot enjoy the food.
The only thing she can think of is checking everything to make sure there's nothing out of place or no food residue is found anywhere despite me following the "no trace" camping rules. We've talked about this and she's told me the stress is so great that she'd just rather that I didn't do that anymore. And I've abided by this because I don't want to stress her out. Which means I don't cook in the kitchen. Using the microwave is Okay.
Anyway, this isn't just me but anyone. And when her daughter in law comes over and tries to help or get into her kitchen stuff, that really puts her over the edge!
And last night was no different. She was stressed out because people were in her kitchen. Which makes her irritable and angry at times...which caused her to get a little short with me in a moment that I hardly remember....which caused her to feel remorseful this morning....which prompted her to call and say she was sorry.
I told her thank you, but I wasn't holding on to it.
And she responded by telling me how much she loves me. ❤️
This is the Karmic Wheel in action:
I recognize her pain and discomfort and I respect her wishes by not using the kitchen to cook anything. I do this because I love her even if it goes against my wanting to cook things.
I also recognize that it's not personal and the same thing applies to everyone including her own immediate family members so no offense is taken. Their mere presence stresses her out, and they all know this too. They were even giving her a hard time about it last night. ( in fun, a little teasing )
I also didn't get angry with her for being short with me even if I've done nothing but not hear her because I can't hear well. I gave her grace and compassion and just allowed it to be.
And then the next day ( it's always delayed with us folks who have ADHD ) she apologizes and expresses how much she loves me. The love comes full circle and returns to the sender.
That's the Karmic Wheel in action.
It's also how GOD works.
J