Submitted by Libby on 02/11/2019.
So my DH just came barreling into the room telling me we are going to Mexico. No discussion no asking if I'd like to go...A buddy of his is going and my DH would like to go too. I do not want to go anywhere with him at this point. This is a man who screams at me daily. Treats me as if I'm a huge imposition to him but I'm supposed to be thrilled to go on a holiday with him. I do not understand at all.
OH! This is easy Don't
Submitted by barneyarff on
OH! This is easy Don't go. Tell him to have a wonderful time and you'll see him when he gets back. Then enjoy your time at home in peace and quiet.
Enjoy the peace and quiet...
Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
When he goes to Mexico without you.
I would be very surprised if
Submitted by Libby on
I would be very surprised if he goes without me. But if he does I will very much enjoy my time alone.
Wish him well for his Mexico trip; you go elsewhere
Submitted by Will It Get Better on
Take a weekend away to someplace you always wanted to (but knew if he were there it would be ruined...). Opportunity like this is rare; seize it!
Hi Libby....
Submitted by c ur self on
I just had to smile and laugh at this....They just can't see themselves....(haven't got a clue)....My W has done me this way so often...Chicago...China...Texas....Atlanta....etc..etc...Due to hyper focus, poor time management, and no planning skills...(seat of the pants decisions)....It just runs our percentage for conflict up into the 90 percentile range.. LOL....If it's something I feel we can handle....I will set her down and make her agree (discuss what is respectful of each other, and is possible) to every aspect of the trip.....Even then we need it recorded or written down and signed by us both.....LOL...
It still takes a lot of patients and grace, because she will want to pursue her agenda as usual...;)....my thought is, that if you go, make sure you want to go, and that he agree's to your feelings about the trip activities before hand....
The reason this is so difficult to share in with high level add partners, is because their excitement about something gives tunnel vision to that particular thing....(It takes on a life of it's own)....They lose site of the big picture of life...(their responsibilities, and others)....So they will completely burn themselves out and ignore others in their pursuits....Just like kids....
blessings
c
So I have made it clear that
Submitted by Libby on
So I have made it clear that I do not want to go to Mexico. He is beyond angry. Raging and having fits over this. What makes it even harder is I have a beloved Auntie who is fighting cancer and only has days to live. I am so sad over this and having to deal with DHs nonsense too.
Brava!
Submitted by Will It Get Better on
Brava! Good for you. Sad the chaos meme descends (but it is really unavoidable.) Stay strong. Blessings to your Auntie.
Way to go, Libby!
Submitted by 1Melody1 on
No doubt it is not easy to manage this aftermath from staying true to yourself. My sympathies to you regarding your aunt. :(