Hello
I just started reading the book I've had adhd my whole life diagnosed as a kid untreated after middle school have been trying to find right meds for almost a year. Our marriage is a mess definitely parent/child dynamic I also struggle with RSD. My wife doesn't belive in adhd she hasn't actually said this in reference to me but we have a friend who has a adhd child and our grandsons father has it I've heard her say it's a excuse parents use for bad parenting! And if I try to explain why I have done something as a Adhd symptom she says I'm using it as a excuse. She tells me I'm the only one that can save our marriage I need to learn to not be so insecure in our relationship (rsd) but everytime I screw up mostly adhd stuff (forget things, get distracted, hyoerfocus) she gets mad which of course to me is criticism which effects my rsd. Anyhow I've started meds haven't found right one or right dosage yet I'm reading this book and I think more than anything working this book is the only thing that might save our marriage but I dont think she will read it. And I'm honestly afraid to ask because I feel like this is our only hope if she says no I'm not sure what to do. I will say in her defense she doesn't really read any books and doesn't have much time to read we have our 3.5 year old grandson and work different shifts so we don't have to use daycare so when I'm working she doesn't have much free time to read if she wanted too read it I'm pretty sure no time to read will be her number one excuse. I just want to know if anyone has been where I'm at and what strategy you used or even a non adhd spouse that was like my wife fed up and a non believer how did your spouse get you to read it?
Can you see what you are putting the focus on?
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I think (based on what your asking here) the reason you know your wife want read the book, is about what your not saying here....
For the next six months turn 100% of your attention on just your responsibilities in life.....No hobbies, No TV or computers games,(unless you work with one)...Every night before you go to bed, make a hand written list of anything you must do the next day (and a colum for the week) and put that paper in your front pocket...Marry this list!....Look at it several times a day...
If you have the ability to live your normal life, you have the ability to this simple thing I ask....Your wife want know you, your marriage will heal, and you want end up filling your body with drugs that are bad for you, in an attempt to correct your bad habits, and faulty life pursuits....And at the end of the six months, she will willingly read your book...But, by then you will probably have forgot all about the book....
c