ADHD and Marriage Blog

The Joys of Finding Yourselves Again

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/18/2011.

A woman who took one of my couples courses wrote to me to give me an update on how well she and her husband are doing.  Since I often have requests from readers at the site to hear about the positive changes couples can make, I thought I would share some of her words.  Of particular interest to you all, I think, will be what she writes about her children - if there were ever a reason to be inspired to take chances on change, this is it!

ADHD Effect Wins Gold Medal

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/29/2011.

I'm delighted to announce that The ADHD Effect on Marriage won the Book of the Year gold medal for best new psychology book released in 2010 from Foreword reviews.  (It was also a finalist for the USA Book News best non-fiction book of 2010.)  If you haven't read it yet, consider getting a copy - just click on "buy now" at the left to go to Amazon.com.

Five Quick Ideas about What "Doing Better" Really Means in a Relationship

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/15/2011.

Anna Quindlen, at this year's Grinnell College graduation ceremony, said "This is a moment to consider what 'doing better' really means."  She was referring to how we think about personal success, but I think the quote is just as relevant to relationship success. I urge you all to think about what ‘doing better’ really means within the context of your relationship.  Each person will have their own take on this question, but I thought I would share my own ideas.

ADHD and Marriage: "I'm NOT Rejecting You, Really!"

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/06/2011.

I ask couples to clarify their personal boundaries so that they are more likely to work as partners.  When you first start this process, though, it can feel as if you are getting “rejected,” particularly if those boundaries have to do with intimacy issues.  Let me help you understand why setting boundaries is an affirmation of your relationship, not rejection.

Get Your Marriage Out of "He Said - She Said" Today!

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/19/2011.

Do you, like many other couples, find yourselves arguing over whether or not something happened a certain way in the past?  Whether or not you’ve discussed a specific subject?  Wondering whether your partner was actually THERE when you were talking about something with him or her?  If so, you’ve probably experienced the “he said/she said” argument – the one that goes like this:

ADHD & Marriage: A Simple Approach to Help You Make Progress

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/12/2011.

One of the participants of my couples course recently asked me “You talk about how important it is the measure how you are both doing against your goals…but what does that look like, exactly?” Here is a step-by-step guide to tracking and measuring your progress.

Free Book Chapters Now Available

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/11/2011.

Registered users of this site can now download, for free, the first two chapters of The ADHD Effect on Marriage simply by going to the "free chapters" link in the main menu.  If you're not yet registered, this might be a good time to sign up!

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