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If you are overwhelmed by the amount of information on the effect of ADHD on marriage, start with these posts first.

Six Signs that ADHD May Be Part of Your Marriage

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/16/2010.

Wondering if your marriage problems might be explained by the presence of ADHD?  Here are six signs that you should look for:

For Men with ADHD Who Aren't Convinced it Matters

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 10/14/2009.

I’m spending quite a bit of time these days thinking about how to get men with ADHD to realize that their ADHD affects those around them more than they think.  At least two men I can think of who have ADHD say they wish someone (other than their wives) had “hit them upside the head” with information that would convince them that their ADHD was causing real problems.

Advice for ADHD Man - Set a New Course

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/07/2009.

While my husband reads most of the posts on this site as the administrator, he rarely weighs in.  But yesterday he posted some heartfelt – and very wise - advice to a man with ADD whose wife is leaving him because she can’t take it anymore.  George’s perspective as a previously badly behaving man with ADD who has successfully changed his life is worth sharing.  Here’s what he says:

ADHD Marriages: Lowering Expectations vs. Improving Them

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 11/11/2008.

I often hear the comment that non-ADHD spouses need to lower their expectations in order to be happy in their relationships.  I would disagree.  I think that all spouses need to improve their expectations.  Let me explain my thinking, and how this might work in the real world.

The Care and Feeding of a Non-ADD Spouse

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/13/2008.

I spend a lot of time helping non-ADD spouses understand how to interpret their ADD husband’s actions (or, more frequently, inactions – a word I use without judgment.)  I think it’s time to write a piece for the ADD male about what non-ADD women want. 

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