ADHD and Marriage Blog

ADHD, Bipolar, or Both? What You Need to Know

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/19/2016.

A recent article in ADDitude Magazine reminded me that about 20% of people with ADHD will develop Bipolar and about 70% of people with Bipolar also have ADHD.  Wow!  This is a huge overlap, and it’s important to know the characteristics of each, so that you can get treatment right.

ADHD and Fighting Stereotypes

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/25/2016.

When I work with couples impacted by ADHD I often see an unintentional bias towards using the label of ADHD as a negative descriptor, rather than as a medical term that enables treatment and describes a particular way of being.  This negative labeling - used by both partners - hurts relationships. as it may lead to blaming the ADHD partner for ALL relationships issues, while providing too easy an out for non-ADHD partners who also play a role in relationship issues.

Growing Up with ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/16/2016.

Want to know what it feels like to grow up with ADHD?  This poem, written by one of the members of this site, gives eloquent testimony to the challenges – and strengths – of a childhood with undiagnosed ADHD.

8 Shame Busters for Adults with ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/09/2016.

Trying to avoid feelings of shame is only human, but when it comes to adult ADHD, gentle engagement with raw areas can lead to significant gains.  But how to do that, when shame feels so bad?  These ideas, provided by adults with ADHD, can help both ADHD partners and non-ADHD partners.

8 Interactions That Trigger Shame in ADHD Partners

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/02/2016.

ADHD adults often carry a lot of hurt and shame with them.  Learn what these shame triggers are and you can significantly improve your interactions.  A recent conversation with five adults with ADHD and their partners highlights some of the issues.

10 Tips if You're 40+, ADHD and Single

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/22/2016.

ADHD may have undermined your last relationship, but it doesn’t have to destroy your future.  Here are 10 tips to keep your future healthier and happier:

9 Ways to End Lying for Good - Lying Part 4

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 03/25/2016.

Your partnership includes too many lies – big and small.  In three previous posts I’ve written about why this is happening, and how this hurts your relationship.  ADHD – and responses to ADHD – can certainly play a role.  So what to do?  Here are 9 strategies for ending in your relationship:

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