ADHD and Marriage Blog

ADHD and Marriage: Should I Record Our Interactions?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/09/2012.

There's a really interesting conversation going on in response to my last blog post that has morphed into whether or not a non-ADHD spouse should secretly record conversations to demonstrate to an ADHD spouse that they really are mishearing and mis-remembering things.  An ADHD spouse has also suggested that recordings might be a good learning tool for "where things go wrong."  Here's what I think:

9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/04/2012.

Some days you just don’t have the energy to cope with your partner’s ADHD symptoms any more.  What can you do?  Here are nine tips to help you survive…

ADHD Meds Unlock Your Potential - A True Story

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 12/18/2011.

I often am asked about why a person with ADHD should try meds, and one response I give is that meds can give you the clarity and calmness of mind to finally have a chance to let the talented, interesting person “inside” shine through without interference from ADHD symptoms.  Along those lines is the story of Andres Torres, who helped the SF Giants win the World Series in 2010.  He struggled and underperformed for years until he finally accepted his diagnosis of ADHD and decided to treat it. 

ADHD and Marriage: Preparing for the New Year

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 12/05/2011.

Okay, I admit I stole this idea, but I will give full credit to Experience Life Magazine staff for writing a bit about why it’s important to think carefully about this year’s successes before setting your New Year’s resolutions (you can read the article here).  This is a particularly smart idea for couples who’ve been struggling with ADHD issues for a while.  Let me give you my specific thoughts…

ADHD and Organization - What Kind of Coach Might Help?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 12/02/2011.

Does it make sense for you to use a coach to get more organized?  If so, how do you find the right coach?  Certified Organizer Coach®, Sue West, has written a guest blog post to help you understand the different types of organization coaches, and where you might go to find one who fits your needs.

Excellent New Support Group Resource

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 11/21/2011.

Bryan Hutchinson, who wrote a memoir about growing up with ADHD called "One Boy's Struggle" has just released a support group discussion guide with Sharon St.

Are ADHD People Lazy?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 11/15/2011.

Ned Hallowell likes to talk about the "moral diagnosis" of ADHD - the idea that those with ADHD are lazy or ill-willed.  The 'moral diagnosis' was what people used to turn to when they didn't know as much about ADHD as we do now.  Yet the idea that an ADHD spouse is 'lazy' is amazingly persistent.  How to get at that?

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