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Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 12/04/2008.

I  wanted to address a theme I see in MANY posts, and in my practice all the time.  It is the problem of the husband who refuses to entertain that he might have ADD, that he might be contributing to the marital problems, that he might benefit from a consultation with an expert.

Where's Melissa?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/30/2008.

A thank you to all who have been posting responses and ideas in the forum this month!  As I catch back up with the blog and forum (I've been on vacation, feeling guilty about not attending to all of you...but immersed enough in what I was doing that I didn't really have time to respond to the forum questions thoughtfully). I've been impressed with the tone, as well as the content. of what people have written.  (One person even posted EXACTLY what I would have posted as a response on memory - an article from a Hallowell newsletter.  Wow!)

ADHD & Marriage Therapy in Person with Dr. Hallowell

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/05/2008.

Starting soon..!  For those of you who are within driving distance of Boston, Dr. Hallowell and his wife, Sue (an excellent therapist in her own right) will be conducting three group therapy sessions for couples starting this June 24th. This is a great opportunity for couples where one or both partners has ADHD to get the advice of real experts, in person, and to meet others who share some of the issues.  The details follow - please read them before calling to register:

Creating New Behaviors - a Resource

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/29/2008.

There are two new resources that I want to make you aware of.  One is a new book by Nancy Ratey that provides a really interesting and useful approach to finally changing the ADHD behaviors that have seem so entrenched.  The other is an upcoming conference about ADHD, sponsored by ADDA.

Want to Find Out What It's Like to Have ADD?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/31/2008.

There is a terrific blog out there that can provide lots of insight into what it's like to have ADD - and that provides very thoughtful ideas for how to get the most out of ADD.  The author, Jennifer Koretsky, has ADD and is the editor of ADDA's newsletter.  Read today's post, What Won't You Do to Get the Job Done? to get a flavor for how she might contribute to your own insights about ADD in yourself or your spouse.

Exercise Can Improve Your Mind and ADD Focus

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/11/2008.

Doctor John Ratey, author of A User's Guide to the Brain and co-author of Delivered from Distration has come out with a GREAT new book on how exercise affects your brain -  Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain tells you in easy-to-read prose how exercise improves your focus (ADDers take note!), beats stress, improves your mood, improves your memory and more.  In fact, the right kinds of exercise actually GROWS more brain connections.  Not sure about keeping that New Year's resolution?  Read this book!

New Forum...and Please Verify Your Sign Up

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 12/28/2007.

We've added a forum to our site!  The first time you are here you will need to re-register in order to post AND you will need to re-register for URL feeds.  Also, everyone - please make sure to click on the registration email that comes to your box - that way your posts will show up immediately otherwise you have to wait for your comments to be approved. 

Guidelines for Making an ADD Marriage Work

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/11/2007.

I came upon this article about making one ADD spouse / one non-ADD spouse marriages work.  The author, Andrea Little (now Andrea Betts) had culled these guidelines together with her marriage support group peers.  I link to it here and hope that you enjoy the group's perspective and collective wisdom.

Follow this link to get to "Odd Couples!" by Andrea Betts.

Feeling Alone and Hopeless in an ADHD Relationship

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/13/2007.

I was moved by this recently posted comment:

"So much good advice but how do I get my husband to read with me or even try?
I am so alone and I honestly don't know where to turn. I can't leave due to finances and no where to go. I don't know if it would be right to call an abuse hotline, because he is just verbally abusive.
Learning more about the ADD mind is helping a little. Just no where to turn."

First, you are not alone!  There are many, many people out there who are in the same situation that you are in – feeling isolated in a relationship affected by ADHD, feeling as if they somehow didn’t get what they had bargained for in their marriage – that it all has been an ugly surprise.

Steven Stosny, Ph.D. on Anger

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/23/2007.

Those who wish to get a broader introduction to Steven Stosny's knowledge about anger can go to his website (at the link in this sentence).  While the purpose of the website is to promote his courses, he writes well about the effect of anger on health and anger at children, among other things.

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