ADHD and Marriage Blog

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Submitted by arwen on 07/20/2010.

One of the things that I have heard and seen time and time again from many people with ADHD is that there's no point in their trying to meet expectations, because they will always fail. My ADHD husband used to frequently tell me this.  And I understand the feeling.  I've been through that experience myself, even though I don't have ADHD.  I have felt the despair and the sense of just being completely beaten down by what other people do with ease.

Six Dangerous Myths About Anger and ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/11/2010.

My new book is about to be released, and it contains a significant section on overcoming “obstacle emotions” that keep you from improving your relationship (anger, fear, denial and hopelessness).  I’ve reprinted a very small portion of that section here for those who feel mired in anger.  This section is about the “myths” I sometimes hear people fall victim to about the “usefulness” or justification for their anger.

Six Dangerous Myths About Anger and ADHD

ADHD and Marriage: Why Won't My Spouse Try Harder?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/22/2010.

Frustrated non-ADHD spouses will often say to me something such as "It's so obvious that my partner should do X.  I don't understand why he/she won't!"  While a solution to the problem at hand may seem obvious, it's often really not quite so straightforward and here's why:

Hallowells Host Couples Workshop on June 12, 2010

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/01/2010.

Dr. Hallowell and his wife, Sue George Hallowell (who is also a therapist) are offering a workshop for couples looking to become more connected.  It will take place on June 12th at the Westin Hotel in Waltham, MA, just outside Boston.  While it's not specifically for couples struggling with ADHD, it will nonetheless provide inspiration and ideas to all who attend.

ADHD & Marriage: Five Tips to Improve Communication Between Spouses Today

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/18/2010.

If you're frustrated with how you and your spouse interact on a daily basis, use these five tips to make immediate improvements. 

Five Things that Improve Your Marriage from The Today Show

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/14/2010.

Here's a five minute video clip from the May 5 Today Show talking about marriage and the five things any couple can do to improve their marriage.

Remaining Empathetic When Your ADHD Spouse is “Stuck”

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/29/2010.

For a non-ADHD partner, it is SO frustrating to watch your spouse struggle without result.  You want her to do well.  You can see HOW she might improve things.  If you were doing them, it would be EASY.  Yet nothing changes.  How does a non-ADHD partner remain empathetic in this situation, rather than become angry? 

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