ADHD and Marriage Blog

Pursuit-Retreat Patterns Will Destroy Your Marriage

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/05/2014.

It’s the catch-22 of ADHD-impacted relationships (and many non-ADHD marriages, as well!)  For many couples impacted by ADHD, distraction, disengagement and retreat from conflict leave non-ADHD partners feeling ‘stranded’ and lonely.  Their natural response is to pursue their partner for attention…and disaster results.  What do you do?

Inside-Out Solutions

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/20/2014.

Coach Jeff Copper explains why both observation and experimentation are critical to finding strategies that work for you.

What should I know about taking ADHD medication for myself or my partner?

Submitted by NLKohlenberger on 08/15/2014.

There are quite a few individuals who have recently been evaluated, or will be evaluated for ADHD showing up on the forum these days, and others whose partners/spouses show signs of ADHD.  It is valuable to know some basic information about ADHD medications, as that is what most doctors will recommend as a way to work with ADHD symptoms.  What follows is a very brief overview and is not intended in any way to replace your doctor’s recommendations in regard to medications.

Some Ways We Differ –ADHDer vs. non-ADHDer

Submitted by NLKohlenberger on 08/02/2014.

ADHD, like so many things that people go through, exists on a continuum from more intense to less intense, and in addition, there are different types.  There are those who are Inattentive (and may appear to be spacey), and those who are hyperactive/ impulsive, and those who are both at the same time.  No two individuals with ADHD show up the same way.

When can a counselor help?

Submitted by NLKohlenberger on 07/26/2014.

I am continually impressed with the enormous amount of support that is so generously shared on this website.  The amount of care and concern that posters have for each other is just tremendous.  And it’s great to see that it comes from both the ADHD/non-ADHD sides of the story.  Each in her/his way, sharing perspectives that are so valuable to be heard.

Flooding and the Use of the Verbal Cue

Submitted by NLKohlenberger on 07/12/2014.

Have you ever gotten flooded during an interaction with your partner when you felt so overwhelmed that you couldn’t seem to see straight?  It can happen when it seems like the same material is coming up in an argument that you’ve been over and over again and again and you just can’t handle it any more.  You know you should disengage, but somehow when you get to this point, it just seems impossible.  Everything seems out of control.  This is flooding.  Flooding is defined as:

Is it really a problem? What happens if I combine Adderall and Alcohol?

Submitted by NLKohlenberger on 07/05/2014.

As a therapist, I’ve always known that mixing mood stabilizing drugs with booze is not a good thing.  I’ve now done some research that shows that this is also true of the pairing of ADHD medication with drinking.  Pairing Adderall with alcohol can be downright life-threatening.

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