Repeated research studies suggest that gratitude can lead us to healthier lives and actually help 'rewire' our brains for greater happiness. But struggling couples may not be feeling very grateful. Here are some tips about how to find gratitude in your own life and what it can do for your relationship.
People with ADHD can be easily overwhelmed – by too much to do, procrastination, and even by sensory overload. If you are easily overwhelmed in the holidays, here are some ideas that could help:
Your mindset can make all the difference when you are in a relationship with an ADHD partner.
I want to share a note from the spouse of an ADHD partner who, after discovering ADHD was a factor in his crumbling marriage, decided to try to be more open to his wife's 'way of being' and experiences.
A recent article at theAtlantic.com reviews some of the research on exercise as a treatment for ADHD. The studies mentioned were done with children, as most ADHD research is, but the evidence is strong that exercise is also an effective treatment for adult ADHD. I encourage you to read up on this topic, as well as watch John Ratey's 2012 TED talk on the subject of how exercise helps your brain. If you weren't inspired to get moving before, you will be now!
You've heard of Ted Talks...this month ADDA is releasing one TADD Talk a day. These 9 minute recordings (for those with shorter attention spans!) are a terrific way to learn what's what from the top experts in ADHD. Find out about the latest in treatment, co-existing conditions, and how to manage life with ADHD. These TADD Talks can be found at this ADDA web page. And, yes, my TADD Talk contribution will be released on 10/19.
Sometimes you can lose yourself in a struggling relationship. It can be helpful to stop thinking about your relationship and take a moment to reconnect with what you love about yourself.
It’s the catch-22 of ADHD-impacted relationships (and many non-ADHD marriages, as well!) For many couples impacted by ADHD, distraction, disengagement and retreat from conflict leave non-ADHD partners feeling ‘stranded’ and lonely. Their natural response is to pursue their partner for attention…and disaster results. What do you do?
