It's important to find time for building stronger connections with your partner, but even with good intentions this is just plain hard to do! When we are busy we often just respond to what's hot. It's stressful to feel as if “urgency” is the criteria that runs your life. And, quite frankly, “urgent” says little about value to you, just timeliness. The result is that we often leave the less urgent, but more valuable marriage and family parts of our lives behind. Here are seven very specific tips for reclaiming your marriage and family time in the face of this pressure.
There is a very interesting forum conversation going on that I would like to highlight here for those who are interested in whether or not they should continue dating someone with ADHD. In a nutshell, the original poster is nervous about whether or not the problems she sees in her relationship with her boyfriend with ADHD will always be present or if they can be improved.
If you’re at this site, chances are that you are looking for all the help you can get to improve your ADHD-affected relationship. A great resource for this is my upcoming couples seminar which STARTS JANUARY 4th – only a few short weeks away! If you are like those who took the course this fall, in seven calls you are likely to see surprising improvements in your relationship. At a minimum, you’ll have a far deeper understanding of the issues that you face and some of your options for dealing with them.
There are lots of extra challenges in many households this time of year – but there is opportunity for growth and love, too. Here’s my idea to make this year’s holiday season happier and easier – seek and celebrate the gifts you already have.
People with ADD have a higher rate of debt, more impulsive spending, and more arguments with their partner/spouse over money issues. However, there is hope (and help available).
John Ratey, author of Spark!, has just posted a wonderful new website that explains the science behind why it's so good for people with ADHD (and also people without) to exercise. He explains in detailed but understandable language how exercise's impact on the brain helps with ADHD, stress, anxiety, depression, addiction, age-related memory loss and more.
I’ve recently had the pleasure to “meet” (long distance) Kathrine Ellison, the Pulitzer Prize winning journalist who is the author of a new book on ADHD. It’s called “Buzz” (her son’s nickname) and tracks a year in her life with her ADHD son as the two of them learn to get along better. She also has ADHD, so apparently the result is a book that is funny, heartwarming, and full of information about how you can help a teen with ADHD.
Dr. Ned Hallowell and I have both been asked by the editors of Psychology Today to join their ranks of bloggers. Today I created my first post there, titled "ADHD Isn't Just for Kids - Adults Feel Big Impact in Marriage." It's an overview to introduce readers to the basics of why one should be paying attention to adult ADHD. For those of you who have "curious minds," take a peek at the wide variety of offerings at the Psychology Today site home page - some very interesting ideas explored there.
