ADHD and Marriage Blog

ADHD Marriages: Lowering Expectations vs. Improving Them

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 11/11/2008.

I often hear the comment that non-ADHD spouses need to lower their expectations in order to be happy in their relationships.  I would disagree.  I think that all spouses need to improve their expectations.  Let me explain my thinking, and how this might work in the real world.

ADD Husband Asks for Help Turning Marriage Around

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 11/03/2008.

You know you have ADD.  Your marriage is disintegrating and you think the ADD might have something to do with it, but you can’t figure out what to do improve things.  What do you do?  This post is very long, but worth the 10 minutes you’ll need to take to get through it as it gets at the very heart of what goes wrong in many ADD relationships.  I think every couple struggling with ADD can learn important coping skills from my response to this man’s question.

Should I Be Frightened For My ADD Relationship?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 10/14/2008.

I have read a couple of posts recently that have noted that reading all of the posts in the forum makes people frightened for the future of their relationship with a person with ADD.  “Do we have a chance?” these people ask.  The answer, unequivocally, is YES!  Let me share one of these posts, which I think really clearly states many of the issues in ADD relationships, and then tell you why and how I think this couple can (and will) succeed.

Calling Non-ADD Spouses - Your Tips for Making Your Marriage Work

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/22/2008.

I've been reading an interesting forum posting series from non-ADD spouses about the kinds of things they say helps them navigate their relationships.  I would love to hear from more of you.  What works for you?  What tips would you give others?  You've seen lots of what I write...now it's your turn to "dole out the advice"!  And, if you want to read that forum, go to this link.    (But please put your ideas attached to this blog post so that others can easily find them!)

What Makes a Good Marriage Counselor?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/16/2008.

Just read an entry on Sari Solden's blog about what to look for when searching for a marriage counselor if one or more of you has ADHD.  Go to this link to read her suggestions.

The Side Effects of Not Taking Medication

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/14/2008.

It’s common to have concerns about taking medications for ADHD.  “I don’t want to be medicated every day” is a common theme, as are concerns about side effects.  But not taking medications also has side effects.  Today I thought that I would try to cover some of the pros and cons of this difficult issue.

 

Embarrassment in Social Situations

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/05/2008.

Are you embarrassed when your ADD spouse takes over a conversation at a party, and doesn’t notice when his audience winces or starts to yawn?  People with ADD often have more difficulty reading emotional cues than those without, and this can cause some interesting moments both socially, and even between just the two of you at home.  What to do?

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