ADHD and Marriage Blog

Melissa Orlov and Ned Hallowell on Today - ADHD and Marriage

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/06/2010.

Dr. Hallowell and Melissa Orlov were interviewed on Today on August 6th about how ADHD can impact marriage.

ADHD and Marriage: If You're So Unhappy, Why Stay?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/06/2010.

Recently, a poster in the forum asked the very good question - if you are all so miserable in your marriages, why do you stay?  I'll give you my own answer - George and I stayed together because even though we were really miserable, we couldn't believe we couldn't do better.  The intractability of the issues we were dealing with didn't make sense.  We had chosen each other as partners for good reason...then things fell apart...but couldn't we make them better again?

Conversation Stirred by NYTimes Article on ADHD and Marriage

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/20/2010.

Tara Parker-Pope’s article in the NYTimes today is creating a lot of conversation around ADHD and how it impacts marriage, which is a wonderful thing.  But there are a number of people who seem to be responding defensively to the idea and suggesting this is just another way to get people with ADHD drugged up.  Far from it – treating ADHD doesn’t necessarily mean medications, though they can help.  Also, knowing about ADHD in your relationship doesn’t commit you to doing anything differentl

Your Way

Submitted by arwen on 07/20/2010.

One of the things that I have heard and seen time and time again from many people with ADHD is that there's no point in their trying to meet expectations, because they will always fail. My ADHD husband used to frequently tell me this.  And I understand the feeling.  I've been through that experience myself, even though I don't have ADHD.  I have felt the despair and the sense of just being completely beaten down by what other people do with ease.

Six Dangerous Myths About Anger and ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/11/2010.

My new book is about to be released, and it contains a significant section on overcoming “obstacle emotions” that keep you from improving your relationship (anger, fear, denial and hopelessness).  I’ve reprinted a very small portion of that section here for those who feel mired in anger.  This section is about the “myths” I sometimes hear people fall victim to about the “usefulness” or justification for their anger.

Six Dangerous Myths About Anger and ADHD

ADHD and Marriage: Why Won't My Spouse Try Harder?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/22/2010.

Frustrated non-ADHD spouses will often say to me something such as "It's so obvious that my partner should do X.  I don't understand why he/she won't!"  While a solution to the problem at hand may seem obvious, it's often really not quite so straightforward and here's why:

Hallowells Host Couples Workshop on June 12, 2010

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/01/2010.

Dr. Hallowell and his wife, Sue George Hallowell (who is also a therapist) are offering a workshop for couples looking to become more connected.  It will take place on June 12th at the Westin Hotel in Waltham, MA, just outside Boston.  While it's not specifically for couples struggling with ADHD, it will nonetheless provide inspiration and ideas to all who attend.

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