Hello everyone,

I'd like any advice anyone might have about ANYTHING that will help me.

I have to switch primary care doctors because my PCP has left for a different state.  Long story short:  I'm running out of pills and can't see my new doctor til Friday.

I'm trying to function on half of what I usually take and i'm a mess.  it's only been a day and a half and I am an absolute f*cking mess.  I know most of it is physical withdrawal symptoms (exhausted, head feels like a wet sponge) but I am just so f*cking stupid and cannot make the smallest f*cking decisions.  I stare at objects i pick up and wonder what to do with them... where do they go?  which thing should I put away first? 

I've got to leave for my second teaching job for the day in 30 minutes and i'm wondering if I should just take tomorrow's ration so that I don't screw up.

*sigh*  I hate feeling like a junkie.

mostly though, i'm worried that the new doctor will be unwilling to prescribe Adderall for any number of reasons (like not believing ADD exists).

I'm just angry at all the college kids, bankers, lawyers, club kids etc. who abuse Adderall and have made it so difficult to get the meds I need to function!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HELP! HELP! HELP!!!!

Ellamenno

Are your DH's doing anything about their ADD? Meds, therapy, reading about ADD or exercising? I've been there with some of the behavior's you are describing. I was more of the Shut-Down type than a Get Angry Mean type before diagnosis. The classic event around here was due to my oblivious powers of observation, so if there was something I "Should" have been noticing was bothering my DW or something that she had told me at some point she would like to get done, she would not nag me about it and pretty much just wait for me do notice the issue or start the project she asked me to do. At some point during the wait she would eventually get pi$$ed off about it and blow up at me about the issue, catching me totally off-guard. Completely unprepared for the subject because I did not ever notice, or because she mentioned something a while back and I forgot or worked on other items in the to-do list. I know the "Feeling" like you are being attacked and understand that it was an over-reaction on my part because of being caught off-guard. Time Management was an issue I figured out a long time ago, before diagnosis, and was just SICK of being late and all the reactions from people when you are late. I think my anxieties drove me to better my time and organizational skills, but I did not have a skill for being oblivious to the world around me, unless something was blowing up in my face.

Since my diagnosis, time management, organization, communication, prioritization and general health is all better than before. Without treatment through treatment with Adderall (No med vacations), some therapy, lots of reading and posting/reading posts like this one, I don't think I could have moved out of neutral. I was diagnosed at 43 and three years later I'm still working on my reactions/communication skills. I believe ADDer's can improve, but how much is up to the ADDer and how much damage was done before any improvements. I wish there was a formula which calculated the point of when there was "Too much water under the bridge".

Thanks for listening...

I'm sure I'm not the only one on this forum who feels ignored and invisible.  I'm so sick of pulling the weight in this marriage.  My husband would be just fine if we never had a serious talk about anything.  It seems to also be just fine with him to sit for hours on end not uttering a word to each other.  He stays in his own world with his laptop and the remote control.  Heaven forbid that I get aggravated with this scenario or the fact that he pays me little to no attention.  He is 50 years old and his ADD seems to be getting worse the older he gets.  Of course, he won't take medication for it.  Yet he expects our 15 yr old son to take his ADD medication and gets frustrated with the very symptoms that I am supposed to accept and accommodate in my husband.  It is maddening.  I am the @(#$ if I point any of this out or want "more" out of our marriage.  "He's doing the best he can". I say BS.  He uses ADD as a crutch and a reason not be held accountable for the reasonable things that any woman expects.  I am sick to death of all of it!  Overall, he is a good person and I do love him.  He has many good qualities.  But the ADD symptoms are slowly driving me out of my mind.  

I'm new here! Glad to find this group! I'm a non ADHD spouse. Six years of marriage. All was great before the wedding. I started to think that something was wrong with him after our sexless honey moon. He was charming and loving but no sex desire. My first year of marriage  was difficult, (before marriage everything was good). I felt like I was more like his mom like his wife. We had almost the same struggles like you all here.  I was so frustrated and depressed.  I wanted to go for counseling, but he wasn't agree. Until one day that he open his heart and  told me that was not my fault. That he felt that something was wrong with him and he did not know what it was , he was frustrated too. He went to a physiatrist, he diagnosed ADHD. A few months later, my husband did not see any improvement with the medications and quitted them. Later, he went to a psychologist who confirmed the diagnosed and encouraged him to visit a therapist . We went together, the therapist confirmed again the ADHD ,everything was good until he felt uncomfortable when she started to talk about the sex part and he quitted the therapy sessions too. I was so mad and tired about him quitting the help. I felt that he did not care so much about us. I was exhausted. Then, I started to learn more about the ADHD and I let him know all what I have learned. That made him feel motivated to give the extra mile to work this together.That helped us to understand better his behavior and moods. I learned how to couch him and since then we work as a team in our marriage. Dr. Hallowell website helped us a lot. My husband is more focus since he is on fish oil supplements. We also noticed that since we have our lovely dog, we feel less stressed, the dog is the kid that we don't have, and he is like a therapy for us. Also, my husband changed his job for one that allow him to travel and work in different places with different people and  projects, what help him to avoid the quitting and to get tired of the same job. I had to quit my job in order that we can travel and live together.  Now he feels happy with his job, he deals better with his ADHD, our marriage is solid, we love each other, we can not imagine this life without each other. And although he still without sex drive , I know is not because he does not love me,  he also went to an urologist, the doctor did not find anything wrong, so the ADHD has something to do with that. He feels  frustrated because he really want to satisfied me as a woman. But our true  love and happiness is more than that. It's not easy for me, I have my sexual needs, but through this  years I have learned how to deal with my feelings. I keep hope that someday his sexual drive is going to improve too. I feel good to be part of this forum. It is like a group therapy, sharing our experiences, is a great support.  Melissa Orlov blog is very helpful. I did read the free chapters of her book and I felt identified with her, I felt inspiring and motivated and wanted to read more!! I went online and bought her book. I can't wait to have it in my hands and read it and use the tools  that she provide us. It make me feel good to know that what she wrote is based in her successful experience, personal struggles,  history and professional knowledge  . That she is more than a professional writing a book , is a person that has been in our shoes. I feel motivated by her and by all of you in this forum, to keep working in my ADHD functional marriage. There is always space to hope, to improve, to achieve...My advice is to learned about the condition, understand it, work together as a team, make some sacrifices and changes in your live to keep functional, are worth. That worked for us and we keep working on it.  We're proud to say that we have a happy and functional marriage. Good luck everyone! Wishing you the best! Thanks to Melissa Orlov, her husband and Dr. Hollowell!!!