"People who are always disapproving" are individuals who tend to express negative opinions or criticism about others' actions, choices, or behaviors frequently, often seeming to find fault with almost anything, creating an overall critical and judgmental attitude.
Key characteristics of someone who is always disapproving:
Constant criticism:
They readily point out flaws or perceived mistakes in others, even in minor situations.
Skeptical outlook:
They often question the motives and intentions behind others' actions, assuming the worst.
High standards:
They may hold excessively high standards for themselves and others, leading to frequent disapproval.
Non-supportive demeanor:
They may not readily offer encouragement or positive feedback, focusing more on negative aspects.
Body language cues:
A disapproving look, furrowed brows, or a dismissive tone can accompany their verbal criticism."
This is my SO when you stand back and see this as a collection of behaviors. This is her problem, not mine.
My problem is: having ADHD with RSD means, constant criticism and disapproval ignites and trigger my RSD which makes a constant battle to maintain self esteem and "feeling good about myself". The battle is real...but it's an internal battle with myself, not my SO.
Separating these two things, makes it eaier for me to see just where the problem exists:
RSD ( fear of rejection and being criticized ) vs getting criticized and constabtly having your flaws and mistakes pointed out to you accompanied by disapproval.
Not taking it personally and not letting this get "inside my head" is the solution.
Part of that is recognizing she does this with everything and everybody no matter who they are...I'm not excluded.
This is her problem, not mine....as this description does not accurately describe me in the big picture, ongoing, on a day to day basis.
I have other issues but this one is not it.
Being objective is my biggest ally in this problem. She's not like this in every situation all the time...but, she is like this by default...a lot of the time. It's not black and white, but it definitely affects me negativity having RSD. Often enough, that I'm triggered more days than not in the big picture.