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- by: adhd32 - I have been on this forum for 7 years and have appreciated your honesty. It took me a long time to realize that your approach of acceptance and boundaries, are the only sane way to go when living with an ADHD spouse. No amount of pleading, hope, or helping can change another person. One must see their spouse for who they are and ask themselves: can I live like this forever if they can't or refuse to work on themselves?? Clinging to hope while the adhd spouse feels entitled to live in their own world...>>> on Forum topic - Overthinking; & over analyzing
- by: Swedish coast - Best wishes for you and your spouse.>>> on Forum topic - As an ADD/ADHD person how would you react on verbal misbehaviour?
- by: Swedish coast - Thank you C, I appreciate so much your kind perspective. The truth is, I'm skidding along on less than full capacity. But I've lost reference points to what a good life is and how energy is conserved. I don't know how to spare myself without anguish for what doesn't happen. This is a good week though. I find spending time socializing and celebrating things really perks me up. I hope you have a good week too!>>> on Forum topic - It depends on me
- by: c ur self - My self inflicted boundary concerning my emotions 12 years are so ago...Sent me from not engaging her w/ negativity and anger, to using self talk and soliloqies to get my frustrations vented....I have worked/prayed a lot about stopping this habit, as it also just increases stress levels...When our frustrations are built around uncaring acts, disrespect, and other wrong behaviors, it's hard to put in to practice a "positivity flip", because there is nothing positive about it...But, you are right about it...>>> on Forum topic - Overthinking; & over analyzing
- by: bnslr - Hey there, just came in to say that yes that's also bad habit of me being very defensive. I need to open up more and try to learn to give her this acknowledgment. Thanks for all the info here everyone!>>> on Forum topic - Re-establiahing everything
- by: bnslr - Hey man, I got diagnosed with ADD beginning of 2024. While my journey and my relationship is still very "new" about two years, and met each other while I was in a burn-out from old work and a broken relationship. Well it really clicked, and the care and love I felt from her were enormously and that's how I also got out of my burn-out and i was strengthening up to be better. Right now, i'm taking rilatin and it helps me a lot with focus and getting motivated at work. (new work) but I already feel burned out...>>> on Blog entry - 9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore
- by: ceolfrithtx - I'm the "less" ADHD person in my marriage. I haven't finished reading (audiobooking) the Orlov book, does it go into grief? I'm somewhat familiar with grieving a living person, since I've been told that I'm grieving my son, who is alive but has moderate development difficulties and behavioral issues that isolate me from other people due to having to focus so steadily on him and which change what I can expect from him. But it would be fair to say that I'm grieving for my marriage, which took such a strong...>>> on Forum topic - Grief - how do I work through it?